Perspectives
On transition, identity, and what comes next.
Writing on the experiences that bring people to Interluud and on what we've learned from walking through them together.
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I Forgot Who I Was Before the Loss. How Do I Find Myself Again?
Three years after losing her dad, a reader doesn't recognize the person she's become. Gab explains why that's not loss — it's integration — and how to build a life that actually fits who you are now.
September 2026 Friendship EndingsMy Best Friend Chose My Ex's Side
A breakup is hard enough. Losing the friend you'd normally call about it at the same moment is a different kind of lonely. Gab on why "staying neutral" is never actually neutral.
September 2026 Divorce & SeparationThe Divorce Was My Idea. Why Am I Falling Apart?
A reader who initiated her own divorce can't understand why she's the one falling apart. Gab explains why choosing to leave doesn't disqualify you from grieving.
September 2026 Divorce & SeparationThe Amicable Divorce That Still Destroys You
You did everything "right" — you were kind, you agreed, there was no villain. So why does it feel like you're drowning? Civility and grief are two separate things.
September 2026 Romantic BreakupsWhy It Still Hurts Even Though You Know It Was Bad for You
You left because you had to, so why does it feel like you're falling apart instead of relieved? The truth about trauma bonding and ambivalent grief.
September 2026 Romantic BreakupsShould I Get Back With My Ex?
Everyone in your life is telling you not to go back. Gab's answer isn't "never" — it's "prove it changed." A framework for telling nostalgia apart from real compatibility.
September 2026 Grief & LossAnticipatory Grief: Mourning Someone You Haven't Lost Yet
You're treasuring the time you have left with them and grieving it at the same time — and wondering if that makes you a monster. It doesn't.
September 2026 Founder & Business DissolutionsHow to Tell Your Team the Partnership Is Ending
Your team already senses something's wrong, and the silence is costing you more than the truth would. What to say, and how to lead through it.
August 2026 Friendship EndingsThe Slow Fade: When a Friendship Dies Without Anyone Deciding It
No fight, no goodbye — just fewer messages until one day the person is gone. This is ambiguous loss, and it's real grief even without a moment to point to.
August 2026 Divorce & SeparationHow to Tell Your Family and Friends You're Getting Divorced
You've survived telling your spouse. Now comes the part nobody warns you about — telling everyone else while managing their grief on top of your own.
August 2026 Romantic BreakupsHow to Actually Break Up With Someone
You've made the decision — now comes the hardest conversation. Scripts, timing, and how to survive being the one who ends it.
August 2026 Grief & LossAmbiguous Grief: When You're Mourning Someone Who Is Still Alive
Estrangement, dementia, addiction — this is the grief with no funeral and no permission slip. Gab names ambiguous loss for what it is.
August 2026 Grief & LossSix Months After Losing Your Mom, You're "Still" Grieving.
The casseroles stopped coming and everyone expects you to be "over it." Gab explains why that timeline was never real.
August 2026 Friendship EndingsThe Friendship Didn't Fail. It Ended.
The myth that real friendships last forever is quietly wrecking people who outgrow good, real friendships. A reframe on endings as seasons completing.
August 2026 Founder & Business DissolutionsWhen You Lose Your Co-Founder and Your Best Friend at Once
A founder who lost her co-founder and her best friend in the same handshake. Why compounded grief hits harder than either loss alone.
August 2026 Divorce & SeparationWho Am I Without This Marriage?
You didn't lose yourself in the marriage — you adapted around it. Why "finding yourself" after divorce is the wrong frame.
August 2026 Founder & Business DissolutionsWhen Your Co-Founder Becomes a Stranger
A co-founder split gets filed as a "business decision," but it's four losses at once — the relationship, the vision, your identity, and the future you planned.
August 2026 Romantic BreakupsGrieving a Situationship Is Real Grief
"He wasn't even your boyfriend" doesn't make the grief smaller. Why undefined relationships still produce real, disenfranchised loss.
August 2026 Divorce & SeparationNot Ready to Date After Divorce?
Everyone in her life wants her "back out there" eight months post-divorce — but pressure isn't proof of readiness.
August 2026 Friendship EndingsHow to End a Friendship
There's no cultural script for ending a friendship — no songs, no rituals, no permission to grieve. Gab gives you the words for the conversation.
August 2026 Divorce & SeparationHow to Tell Your Kids You're Getting Divorced
Age-by-age scripts, the things never to say, and why the conversation itself matters less than what you do consistently in the weeks after.
July 2026 Romantic BreakupsHe Says He Loves Me But Nothing Changes
He's loved you for three years and cancelled therapy twice. Why love without follow-through isn't enough — and how to stop waiting for permission to want more.
July 2026 Romantic BreakupsHow to Know When a Relationship Is Over (Even When You're Still Hoping It Isn't)
You're looking for a moment, a sign, one thing that will make the decision feel like it was made for you instead of by you. That moment probably isn't coming.
July 2026